Monday, 9 November 2015

A Simple Question!!

Every day, no matter where we go we are asked the same question countless times, by people we know! That could be close friends, family, work colleagues, acquaintances, and also by strangers like shopkeepers, bus drivers, waitresses, bank clerks. HOW ARE YOU? It's 3 words, 9 letters and a question mark!! It sounds innocuous but it's also a loaded question! Do these people really want to know? Are they just being polite? Should I be honest? What will they say if I am? So how many of us give the same reply? I'M FINE THANKS! Is there something wrong with that? No, not really but it doesn't really say much! It hides our true feelings but it is also a satisfactory answer, it means people don't feel the need to delve deeper!
So if we were really honest what would we say instead?

  • I'm having a shit day!
  • I could be better! 
  • I might cry if you keep talking to me!
  • I'm sad!
  • I'm lost!
  • I'm lonely! 
  • I need help
  • I'm frustrated! 
  • I'm so unhappy! 
  • I'm struggling! 
The list goes on and on!
So many of us hide how we're really feeling, maybe because we don't want to bother people or we don't want to feel vulnerable. But keeping these feelings in isn't good for us! We forget how genuinely lovely people are! It's one of a handful of good things PND has taught me! People are so willing to listen, to give a hug, to be there for you, to help in any way they can!! So if you're struggling for any reason (someone reminded me the other day that we really have no idea what battles people are fighting!) take a deep breath, be brave and tell someone how you're really feeling, they may just surprise you!! And when you ask that question HOW ARE YOU? really listen, look in their eyes, they may not be telling you the whole truth!
So to end this short post I will ask How Are You?  XOXO 


  1. Love this post so very true and thought provoking. Thanks for asking we are both fine, and I do mean that. Big hugs from us, looking forward to speaking tomorrow. Hope your mojo turns up soon.

    1. Thank you Mum, I'm glad you like it!! I'm pleased you're both fine!! I look forward to speaking to you later!! Oh me too! Xxxx